• Parental relationship
This is how a parent relates with their ward, and how much they know them. A lot of parents really lack a good and close relationship with their ward. Some parents are actually the cause of this to an extent, because a lot of working class parents don't have time to sit with their children and have a chat with them about what they experience on their day to day activities, even if they have their off ,they take it as a resting period, and some other parents has portrayed themselves has the very strict type that every little thing said or done would be taken so seriously. This has really destroyed a lot of childrens life.Gone are those days when parents go about with their business and their children left alone to fend for themselves, some parents use their childhood life to compare to the present forgetting that things have changed so much.
Nowadays we hardly see or hear about parents talking to their children on sex education, or other pressing issues that might cloud their mind. The truth is that teens of this age tends to learn faster and practice what they learn, a lot of teens are very secretive they prefer telling their issue to their friends than parents because they have that feeling, believe and mentality that “my parents won't listen to me cause they are busy” or “am scared of my parents they must not know". A child to parent relationship is very important as it helps the parent to know the child better, the idea of telling a Female child to run away from boys, without telling them the dangers is not an advice as such child would not stay under you forever and you wouldn't know what she does behind your back.
• Good parenting in the choice of career
Parenting doesn't just stop in knowing your child it also continues in the aspect of choosing a career. Nowadays we see a lot of students studying a particular course not because they want to but cause they were asked or forced to do so by their parents, some children were lucky cause even while doing the course they found interest in it, but the question is “Is that God's plan for the child" as Christians when doing anything at all we should first of all take it to God ask him what he wants for you. Some parents see some Art courses apart from Law as a “so called useless course", some others are bothered about where and how the child would find job after and some also force their child to study a particular course because they did,wanting the child to follow their footsteps.
I'm a living testimony to this situation, while in Senior Secondary School One I was in science department, all I wanted was medicine all my Dad wanted was Pharmacology, being a science student wasn't easy for me, so I had to drop to Arts department which I had to start from Senior Secondary School One afresh. My Parents wanted Law because lawyers are seen as the most respected people in the society and I wanted to go for Mass communication, they pushed and pushed I agreed did Jamb and everything, but as God may have it I was taken for Mass communication.
Not everyone would have or had a good ending like mine especially if their parents are hell bent on making them study that particular course. My little advice to parents is to allow a child pursue his dreams or career, and to children be free to tell your parents your choice of career and to make them understand what you could do with the career but note “not in a rude manner", and also parents should also encourage them and put them through.
Parenting isn't an easy thing ,it takes a lot of wisdom, grace, help from God in general. That's why it is adviceable for parents to pray continually for the wisdom to train the children well.
Another point a parent should note is that not all your children are the same, even an identical twin can't behave a like or get same grades in school or be extremely brilliant at the same time, talk more of siblings who are not twin. Because your first child had A's while in school doesn't mean the other children would also have A's in their result and many more examples.
Generally, parents who haven't taken their responsibilities should take them now so that when the child grows older he or she would say “ I'm proud of my parents cause they brought me up well".
This is how a parent relates with their ward, and how much they know them. A lot of parents really lack a good and close relationship with their ward. Some parents are actually the cause of this to an extent, because a lot of working class parents don't have time to sit with their children and have a chat with them about what they experience on their day to day activities, even if they have their off ,they take it as a resting period, and some other parents has portrayed themselves has the very strict type that every little thing said or done would be taken so seriously. This has really destroyed a lot of childrens life.Gone are those days when parents go about with their business and their children left alone to fend for themselves, some parents use their childhood life to compare to the present forgetting that things have changed so much.
Nowadays we hardly see or hear about parents talking to their children on sex education, or other pressing issues that might cloud their mind. The truth is that teens of this age tends to learn faster and practice what they learn, a lot of teens are very secretive they prefer telling their issue to their friends than parents because they have that feeling, believe and mentality that “my parents won't listen to me cause they are busy” or “am scared of my parents they must not know". A child to parent relationship is very important as it helps the parent to know the child better, the idea of telling a Female child to run away from boys, without telling them the dangers is not an advice as such child would not stay under you forever and you wouldn't know what she does behind your back.
• Good parenting in the choice of career
Parenting doesn't just stop in knowing your child it also continues in the aspect of choosing a career. Nowadays we see a lot of students studying a particular course not because they want to but cause they were asked or forced to do so by their parents, some children were lucky cause even while doing the course they found interest in it, but the question is “Is that God's plan for the child" as Christians when doing anything at all we should first of all take it to God ask him what he wants for you. Some parents see some Art courses apart from Law as a “so called useless course", some others are bothered about where and how the child would find job after and some also force their child to study a particular course because they did,wanting the child to follow their footsteps.
I'm a living testimony to this situation, while in Senior Secondary School One I was in science department, all I wanted was medicine all my Dad wanted was Pharmacology, being a science student wasn't easy for me, so I had to drop to Arts department which I had to start from Senior Secondary School One afresh. My Parents wanted Law because lawyers are seen as the most respected people in the society and I wanted to go for Mass communication, they pushed and pushed I agreed did Jamb and everything, but as God may have it I was taken for Mass communication.
Not everyone would have or had a good ending like mine especially if their parents are hell bent on making them study that particular course. My little advice to parents is to allow a child pursue his dreams or career, and to children be free to tell your parents your choice of career and to make them understand what you could do with the career but note “not in a rude manner", and also parents should also encourage them and put them through.
Parenting isn't an easy thing ,it takes a lot of wisdom, grace, help from God in general. That's why it is adviceable for parents to pray continually for the wisdom to train the children well.
Another point a parent should note is that not all your children are the same, even an identical twin can't behave a like or get same grades in school or be extremely brilliant at the same time, talk more of siblings who are not twin. Because your first child had A's while in school doesn't mean the other children would also have A's in their result and many more examples.
Generally, parents who haven't taken their responsibilities should take them now so that when the child grows older he or she would say “ I'm proud of my parents cause they brought me up well".
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