Relationship according to the Oxford dictionary says it's the condition of being related by blood or marriage, though this definition might seem so deep, on the other hand its self explanatory. Relationship is meant to be a thing that lead to marriage, it's meant for matured minds, but unfortunately we see teens going into relationship for the fun of it or influence or pressure from friends.
Teens and Youth see this as an opportunity to exploit all the girls and do things they have always wanted to do but couldn't, which destroys their life unknowingly. Who says you can't wait for the right ime to come before doing any of those,the truth is as teens/youth we would like to explore, but in the process of exploring we damage our lives go beyound what we ought to do and ought not to do forgetting that we have a long journey ahead of us.
We mostly see relationship as a medium to "know if we are romantic or not" according to some of us. But no thats where we all get it wrong, relationship especially teenage/young adult relationship shouldn't be based on that it should better still be based on morals and other aspect and not the sexual aspect of it. I asked a guy one day in his early 20's why he thinks people prefer to keep an ungodly relationship than a Godly one he said "ahhh the fun of a relationship is when sexual activities are involved", with this you can see what most of us believe in which is a wrong believe. Any relationship that wouldn't lead to marriage shouldn't involve any intimacy even if its going to lead to marriage it shouldn't still involve the intimacy till you are married to the guy,according to the bible "Bed undefiled" this saying goes for both genders not only the female.
It's sad to say that 99.9% of the guys out there are non-virgins talking about the youths now, most of them see sex as a thing of pleasure and something that needs to be tried out before marriage in order for you be an expert in it, ohhh no they are getting the wrong message. Yes it is not written in the bible that teen/young adult relationship is a sin, but the rate at which a lot of us abuse this relationship of a thing is on the high side and if care is not taken we would experience high rate of unwanted pregnancy.
The relationship we should have as a teen or young adult is a relationship on morals and other aspects like academics, spiritual growth and talk, encouraging purpose, assistance in other aspect and others. This type of relationship yields more beneficial things than the one that is built on sexual things and material things, ways to avoid being tempted always see each other in an open place, when you see talk about things that would benefit the two parties and not irrelevant things, the relationship should be known to everyone especially your parents to avoid any unwanted gossips or talk. Even as a teen/young adult if you feel you are matured in mind and other aspect and feel you are ready to go into a relationship you should have a layed down principles which has to be followed (this goes to both genders).its always good to be known by your principles it shows that you know what you are doing, and also tells the other party that you are not just an anyhow person.
Some of us would ask why do some ungodly relationships yield marriage well my answer is your destiny is different from another persons own so you don't expect what will work for Mr A work for Mr B or just because someone tried it and it worked doesn't mean that if you try it your case would be the same, you could be very unlucky that it might lead to series of problem. So to be on a safer side and as a christian and a child of God the best relationship to have is a Godly relationship. NB: Relationships are not for immature minds and neither are they for small children.
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